A novel idea that is upending the world of parenting—where changing diapers is as normal as cuddles—is asking newborns’ consent before changing their diapers. It’s a notion that has generated debate and interest in equal measure, leaving many people in shock.
Now introduce yourself to Deanne Carson, a self-described expert on sexuality education. She makes the audacious assertion that parents ought to start a conversation about consent as early as possible with their children. Carson makes the unusual claim that even young children can gain from a consent-based culture.
Carson gave a noteworthy appearance on ABC when she discussed the importance of introducing this idea to young children. She stresses the need of nonverbal clues, including making eye contact, to communicate the idea that a child’s opinions count. Although infants are unable to answer vocally, Carson contends that a respectful bond between parent and child can be established through a period of anticipation and nonverbal communication.
Naturally, there are many who oppose such a radical notion. A lot of people on the internet are doubtful and wonder how realistic it is to ask a newborn who isn’t old enough to understand what’s going on to consent. Some even make jokes about how ridiculous it is to expect a newborn to respond verbally.
John Rosemond, a different parenting guru, contributes to the conversation by criticizing the seemingly harmless practice of giving kids high fives. Such actions, in Rosemond’s opinion, undercut parental authority and respect and may pave the way for a future dearth of discipline.
These conversations highlight the difficulties of childrearing in a society where parenting decisions seem to have consequences. Every action and interaction shapes the parent-child dynamic, from consent in diaper changes to the propriety of high-fives.
What is the conclusion then? Are these discussions necessary to foster respectful relationships, or are we overanalyzing parenting? One thing is certain despite the ongoing discussion: parenthood is anything but easy. It’s an adventure full of obstacles, shocks, and yes, even soiled diapers. One thing, though, remains constant throughout it all: there is always room for growth and understanding.
